places whr i default. n need to alter.
i need to:
1. give allowance to human nature. ppl being late, ppl procrastinating, ppl loving self-praise etc.
esp if i anticipate it.
- if i expect sum1 to be late, i shud allocate half an hour's time extra (just in case). well to my surprise maybe the person might come early.. *gasp!* :P
- if i expect sum1 to procrastinate, i shall just give constant reminders n set deadlines for sth to be done.
bcz in the end i noe i'm not perfect too. whenever i'm late or when i procrastinate, i also hope for sum mercy spared to the sirry gurr.. hehe.
2. take control of my moods.
not to be so easily stressed / worried and not to tell myself i am sleepy bcz i woke up early that morn.
- bcz its unfair to expect my frens to keep tolerating my moods.
3. rmb that diff ppl hav diff priorities, fears and concerns. n i may not understand them fully to be able to judge what they are doing is right or wrong.
- bcz they come from diff backgrounds, their definition of a senior-junior relationship differs from mine and i'm not in their shoes anyway. as long as they dun step into my boundary and get me involved.
- yeah. i dun agree with ragging. or forcing juniors to greet u. bcz in my 1st yr, i rmb that i was shy n damn pai seh n felt so awkward being forced to greet seniors that i dunno. it wasnt that i din respect them. i just felt it was weird. prob a culture in local uni i wasnt used to.
- bcz i believe that respect is sth earned. not sth dictated upon a more inferior party. just bcz a junior greets u doesnt mean he/she reli respects u either. cud prob just b an upfront guise of respect bcz he/she was made to greet seniors or face certain consequences.
- oh well. dat said, diff ppl hv diff opinions. i shud respect other ppl's opinions too.
4. stop having self guilt for spending time getting involved in other activities / going out
-bcz i hav2 remind myself that i'm doing all these for a purpose, for a greater vision for God's kingdom.
5. get a bookshelf!!!
- but dat can wait bcz i'm just too lazy to me-mafan-kan myself to go down to any furniture shop to get myself 1. shall just settle wif putting all my books n files n boxes ard my room.. hehe.
ok! gotta get going on pbl! :P
1 comment:
me-mafan-kan yourself? Haha, that's the first time I hear that phrase. But well, I think even though giving other people the benefit of doubt is good, letting them taking the advantage of you (and eventually mess up the project/activity/plan) is not a way either. You feel like you own the project hence you care very much for it - is a good attitude. Should the pressure build up, remind yourself that you do these things because you love to, not because you have to (even if the situation is more to the latter, hehe). Hopefully that will give you a refreshing push every time when things don't turn out well and you start to doubt why did you put yourself into that situation :)
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