Classic@l Phenomena: Planned and Wanted?

Coming to the end of my Obgyn rotation. Highly adrenaline fueled. Extremely hormonal. The estrogen progesterone and FSH imbalance. Overbearing cortisols. Results include a 4 month period of amenorrhea xD weight gain, hair loss, cold intolerance (to the freezing labour room) and eye bags that require both Meitu Xiuxiu Plus concealer to erase.

Despite that I got to say that i'm thankful for a bunch of warm bosses who actually care if we have taken our lunches. Infrequent moments during the less crazy days, but still great to be on the receiving end of kindness. Funny tho that this tiny trace of humanity's enough to amaze u. lol. what have we become. I guess i reached the point of familiarity that breeds comfort to the wards. Still have three more working days in the department (that i am praying really hard for peacefulness). Thank you Jesus for getting me thus far. phewh.

It was back to teamwork teamwork teamwork in obgyn. there are times u feel like hugging ur colleague so tight for going the extra mile for u. there are times u tell urself its ok bcz u have been on the receiving end. whatever shit happens, u gotta js suck in any anger/frustration/hairpullingurge and keep going n do the best u can.

Certain groups of patients or rather mothers, brought together with them a myriad of social issues. Unplanned teenage pregnancy (making it legally statutory rape?), marriage without certificates, single motherhood, unidentified mental retardation that was never brought to seek treatment since birth, the list goes on, sometimes its so absurd that u wonder if there's any hope left to educate, empower and gradually improve the people's socioeconomic status and quality of life. it's like a vicious cycle that the people are stuck in. Most of these girls live in the rural areas, get minimal basic schooling and grow up without dreams. the end point basically stops at getting a partner, getting married and having kids. they're home makers, the husband (or partner in cases where they dont register and get a legal marriage cert. honestly most ppl seem to be happy with being married the traditional way without a legal document, not realizing that they lose their rights in the event of abandonment by their partners. sad right) is the breadwinner. most doing hard labour. they dont do proper birth control (lack of awareness of the importance of birth control i suppose) and end up having one child per year. countless mothers at a mere age of 25 already having 5-6 children. someone tell me how they cope without going bonkers. it feels weird asking a 25 year old lady whether she has completed her family and would like to do BTL (tubal ligation). but its also irresponsible not to (right??). it's like u can already forsee her having 10 kids before she decides to BTL.

some liberal folks might argue that it's their right to have as many kids as they want, etc... but anyone can do the math and know that those children are going to grow up without the undivided attention and development every child deserves. most will be left to fend for themselves, get the basic formal education without guidance to dream big and achieve greater things. (i'm talking about the girls especially). and the vicious cycle continues.

we tried advising these ladies. birth control, its importance, female rights, the importance of getting a marriage certificate. social worker referral. get proper antenatal check up for ur baby. etc. to no avail. :S

so that's the ob experience in hospital sibu for u.

Celebrated my bday with lovely friends in sibu :)